BraveMen S4E119: Joseph Warren-From Broken to Blowing Up Rocks

This guy today is unique his name is Joseph Warren and this guy is going to inspire you and it's going to be it's a fascinating story. How does a man go from where he was growing up on welfare government cheese as he says all of that builds this huge business loses everything and then has a website called blow up rocks. It's fascinating Joseph Warren is the podcaster who has broken Catholic number one podcast on iTunes for Protestants and Catholics and he's a men's coach and founder of blow up rocks which is basically a coaching system that takes men from anger and stress to peace and purpose. So today in brave men you'll meet this man remember for tools and resources for discipling men cmn dot men cmn dot men christian men's network dot men on Paul Lewis Cole host of brave men want to thank you for being with us today man it's great getting some texts and feedback from friends. You can write to me at Paul at cmn dot man Paul at cmn dot men. Joseph Warren we'll get into it we'll do a couple things as we go into the podcast today but he's married has two children also has an entrepreneurial podcast but like dude we're to blow up rocks come from. And how did you end up doing a web podcast called broken Catholic that what's your story so it's a fascinating fascinating story I really like getting to know men like Joseph who have actually been there and done that it's not theoretical it's real life he's really lived it. And if you will come out the other side strong successful and loving Jesus Christ with all his heart you're going to you're going to really be inspired renewed rewired re everything reinvigorated today and brave men. It's brave man with Paul Lewis Cole wisdom encourage for the journey. Talking with Joseph Warren who's the host of broken Catholic and Joseph only get right into it I did a little intro who you are and all your stuff but you've got you've got this skill set which you help men deal with stress and anger and we're coming out of this unbelievable stressful time what's the worst things we're doing right now to deal with that stress as men as men I think. The worst thing we're doing with all that stress of feeling out of control in our lives or the things in our world we just can't maneuver we can't manipulate what we're doing with all that stress as it just stacks within us as we're blowing up on our wife and kids more often more often than we like. And then we feel guilt and shame afterwards because the enemy comes in as the condemned how could you treat them that way what kind of man you kind of man yells at his wife and kids and if we're not yelling at our wife and kids you know then we're finding other outlets to sell soothe the anger that's stacking and burning in a rage and it typically looks like porn it looks like over drinking it looks like over working staying at the office too long. Because you don't want to go home it doesn't look like wall you know listen when good things start to consume our time they become bad habits yeah and they eat away at the relationships that matter most to us right those eternal relationships so that's what we're doing wrong right now we don't know how to direct our anger it's misdirected anger is the problem yeah so we're dealing with that in ways that that take us away whether we're there in person or not we're not present with our family or loved ones friends whatever maybe yeah and you and I spoke about this offline the reason why we're not present is it we're either on our phones or we're stuck in our heads yeah this is where we live is men and we feel we can control things in our head when in fact that's where all the chaos exists wow yeah so it's really the battle for the mind it's the battle for the mind absolutely okay and you've got a great phrase on that about being in your head or in your heart yeah for sure the enemies battleground where he wins the battle time at the time at the time and we'll win the war the spiritual war against you for your soul and your family soul the battleground is in your head that is the enemy's home territory it's like playing a home game with your competitor right it's home team advantage the enemy has home team advantage in our heads okay gotta louse this in his great wisdom I don't know why I don't aim to know why agent of free will yeah right but he allows it this is why as a man brother you feel frustrated right now you feel like why do I have all these negative thoughts coming at me what's wrong with me yeah it's because it's home turf advantage with the enemy so what do we do with that well you got to change the battleground if you want to win the war come on all right so you got to change the battleground if you want to win the war what does that mean well what is Jesus say and reveal in scripture that he lives is it in the head of man or in the heart of man there you go it's in the heart of man that's right we know this you taught what taught this as a kid in Sunday school so if Jesus lives in the heart but you brother are spending 24 seven in your head we have a disconnect don't we yeah wow there's a problem there right and they say what the furthest distance in the universe verse in the universe is from the head to the heart yeah this is true in many regards but when you start fighting the battle in your heart where Jesus is now you're able to access God's home field advantage the kingdom of heaven resides within the heart of man because Jesus resides in your heart so the enemy is powerless when you fight him on the battleground of your heart and of course we're not going to leave you there brother as you're listening we're going to show you how to do that how do you change the battleground from your head to your heart but first you had to know the problem yeah and really understand it Psalm 119 11 God recorded you said your word I've hidden in my heart that I might not sing against you and one of the things that we've talked about with christian's network quite often is your hands will eventually do what you gathered in your heart problems forces says guard your heart because out of your heart comes your life yeah we're talking about that we're not just talking about the muscle we're talking about the soul of a man right spiritual who he is as a spirit man and in your website which I absolutely think is fantastic which is you know uh break rocks blow up rocks blow up rocks dot com yeah I'm looking at I'm looking at my notes about breaking rocks yeah yeah it's uh it is absolutely fantastic and what you're dealing with you know all of that on blow up rocks dot com blow up rocks is is your dealing with uh there was a story that you had at the start of that website about a man who was dealing with porn he had a lot of shame on him and he felt like he was under he woke up every morning just under a rock and you're like dude let's just blow that rock up I love that man yeah for sure the enemy wants us to believe and and you know this right the enemy wants us to believe Paul that there's something wrong with us all right and actually let me just backtrack and just give context right to every man listening right now because it's very important that we understand something we have to understand the source okay again the more you understand the problem the quicker you find the solution I think we can all agree on that so I'm gonna teach you right now to your audience what's the guy problem that isn't taught in church but should be right there's a very clear guy problem going on in the church all right so the guy problem is this ever since you were a boy all of us the enemy has been lying to you he's been whispering in fact three lies to you but before we say that let's give a little more context when God made you brother and every one of his children he put good soil in you soil that is rich and fertile with the intention of you being fruitful for his kingdom yeah Ephesians 210 you're as you are his masterpiece yes so that's critical that we understand that we are made good but we don't feel that way and the enemy constantly is showing us evidence otherwise so over time life took it it's toll on you right and the enemy's been targeting you right because he knew you gonna have a wife and kids and he wants to destroy their souls and he has to get through you you're the strong man in the house that Jesus talks about that he has to go through see the enemy started lying to you back when you were a boy he the same way he did to even the garden okay in fact the enemy sold you three big lies repeatedly and convincingly until over time you started to repeat them back to yourself and the moment you repeat a lie back to yourself repeatedly and convincingly it becomes what comes truth your truth yeah your truth okay yeah so if you ever wonder brother why you do the things you ought not do and why you don't do the things you ought do like Saint Paul this is why okay it's these lies all humanity is plagued with it this is the fall in nature within man so lie number one God doesn't love you God doesn't love you if he did then why did he let that ex why did he let you experience so much pain and hurt when you were younger why didn't he protect you see God doesn't love you that's the first lie and then the enemy over your lifetime showed you evidence every time someone hurt you right he goes see God doesn't love you how it on yeah piles it on until you start to believe it and repeat it back to yourself okay lie number two God isn't a good father and you can't trust him God isn't a good father and you can't trust him after all if he was a good where was he when that person hurt you or broke your trust what's God holding back from you right the same way he said to Eve what do you mean God said you can't eat from any of the trees in the garden he's holding something back he knows you'll become like him see he's not a good father you can't trust him so the enemy plants this lie and repeats it okay lie number three you're no good there's something wrong with you you're broken you're irreparable because if you were good then God would have protected you but you're a piece of crap so he didn't and he won't these are the three lies that the enemy's been telling you the same three lies the year after year relationship after relationship and he showed you evidence every time someone hurts you or wronged you evidence of the lies in your life through your physical senses okay although you've listened to his lies since you were a kid you were like fought against them for a while you're like now God does love me my mom and dad told me God loves me I believe he loves but once the evidence just stacked against you you gave in you gave in we all do right so here's the problem the lies are external the rocks I call rocks head trash right rocks just means head trash that's what we're talking about here okay so every time the enemy through the lies they were from the outside in okay so the rocks are external the lies are external the second you start to repeat them back to yourself because you're made in God's image and likeness every man you are also part co-creator with the creator of the universe how did the creative of the universe God create the universe into a physical existence well he spoke he spoke so the spoken word gives you brother co-creative power into your life every time you speak you either speak life into yourself and someone else or you speak death there is no in between it's one of the other so it's very important that you're intentional with your language but you didn't know this so it's not your fault you didn't know the enemy's throwing rocks at you other people have thrown rocks at you you're throwing rocks back at them every time you say something that cuts them like a knife but meanwhile the enemy is manipulating us and he's got us throwing rocks at each other I got a pile of rocks you've got a pile of rocks you hit me I'm a retaliate and what's happening is all the rocks are falling into our soil our good soil remember that and they're sinking deeper down and the the storms of life and the weather I just bury these rocks and then we push them down because we don't want to deal with them because they hurt so as men we're professional push your downers well there's no question we do that and that's a great way to put it because we all get that we understand it yeah it's like it comes up yeah no no no I don't want to deal with that that trauma when I was you know you know taking advantage of as a kid or I was hurt with someone broke my trust I have shame there I'm gonna push that shame rock back down movement opens and we go that close nope right yeah so that it's a great metaphor for us to see that so what happens is through life the rocks go deeper and deeper and deeper until they're completely out of sight exactly where we want them yeah so we think what we don't realize because you know we believe this lie and oh time heals all wounds you've heard that right time heals all wounds this is a lie of the enemy propagated by the enemy and his evil doers time does not heal all wounds and in fact time makes all wounds worse yeah they grow they fester they infect okay and they kill and they destroy so very important so time does not heal all wounds forgiveness heals all wounds God's forgiveness heals all wounds that's why the father sent Jesus the son to forgive mankind because it was the only thing that could forgive all things was forgiveness so this is important to understand so the further down your rock scale out of sight out of mind which we like they're festering and they're growing over time until the little pebbles grow into stones and the stones left on addressed shame porn rock addiction right guilt all of these rocks unforgiveness they grow into boulders so big in fact that they raise themselves to the surface and now you can't help but notice them and now you're like oh crap I have an addiction oh darn my wife wants a divorce oh right and now you you're like okay fine I got to drop everything I'm doing because I have to deal with this rock I got to get it out of my soil the problem is this you have a new problem brother the rock is now so big and so heavy that your strength is not sufficient I'll give you I'll give you a little picture on that my wife was working on the back of our yard a couple days ago and she's picking up stuff and and weeds and dirt and there were some rocks there and some stuff yeah and so she's getting all this and she's putting it into a container you know like a small trash can with a liner plastic liner so finally she gets it where it's pretty full and she says hey can you come out and just pull out the plastic liner this bag and it carried out to the other side of the garage and then I'll do another one I went out there it I mean it must have weighed 80 pounds or something one more than you yeah because she didn't realize you know it's just a piece of dirt here a piece of dirt there a rock here a rock there and you start putting it in there and you don't realize it pretty soon you've actually created I go we're gonna have to distribute this among a few bags and you don't realize the weight you're carrying until at some point you try to pick yourself up and it's so good so good and the same way Paul that you had to take those rocks out one at a time I'm guessing yeah right this is what God wants to do with each of his sons he takes out one rock at a at a time blast it to smithereens and the good news brother is that there's hope when God heals it's permanent when man heals normally you got to go back for a you know another visit yeah yeah all right a few more but if you look in the Bible every time God healed he never said come back for a follow-up visit it was a permanent healing so God wants to permanently heal these rocks in us men go ahead yeah you know uh Joseph coming with Joseph Warren blowuprocks.com and broken catholic two-grade podcasts and then and then also you've got the you've got the first 100k podcast sure which which is fantastic for Christian entrepreneurs business people tremendous and all that'll be on our show notes but you know it's easy for you to talk about this Joseph because you had this perfect upbringing. Did you not hear the title of the other show broken catholic? I was a broken match brother listen I grew up with yeah I grew up with a marine father all right and and he wanted to do faith well when he came back from Vietnam and he had his own pile of rocks he came home from war with he watched his brothers his comrades fall and he had to go down into enemy territory at the end of that horrific war fly down on the double helo choppers down the line in enemy fire to retrieve the dog tags from his fallen brothers so that he could bring them back to their family so the families could have one piece or one memory of their sons their brothers okay so you can imagine the trauma and the PTSD that this man experienced okay well what did he do with all those rocks all that head trash he pushed him down into his soil because nobody taught him what to do with it where's the outlet we don't know nobody teaches us so he pushed him down he pushed him down thinking out of sight out of mind he comes home he's got good intentions he meets my my mother she's a you know 100% Greek right off of you know the boat so to speak she's authentic Greek kind of like the olive oil you know and he marries this woman they fall in love and they raise six beautiful children but during that home life of love and joy and faith there was a lot of religiosity and there was a lot of God is more of a someone to be feared rather than someone to run to it was more you know Adam and Eve if after the sin after the fall they run away from God rather than run to him and ask for forgiveness so I had this dysfunctional way of viewing God where he was more of a tyrant he was more like my dad he would yell a lot he would condemn me and judge me when I messed up so I didn't want anything to do with that kind of God so now all of a sudden spiritual rocks are forming in me yeah around my relationship with God if I even had one and then I would watch my dad blow up all the time in anger he didn't know how to express himself without anger because he felt out of control in different areas or he couldn't control these six little human beings who had their own free will you can imagine the frustration God has with us right so what is a man do with all that anger and frustration well he blows up it's a volcano waiting to erupt and the rocks would just fly everywhere and he would throw rocks at us with not meaning to he loves us he throw rocks at my mom not meaning to he loves her but he didn't know what else to do and then he would feel guilt and shame afterwards and then he threw rocks back on himself and beat himself to crap right and rounded round we go in the shame cycle of life as men so that's the upbringing I had well you can imagine that put some rocks in me yeah yeah you know you grew up in a hurricane of rocks thank you that's a good way to say they were just flying constantly now I want to paint a good picture we had loving our home right we had gotten our home but man the enemy just needs the one access of anger I believe Paul and disagree or agree tell me what you think I believe that the enemy's number one access into the home into Christian homes right now into your family brother is anger and it's your anger this is his access and you don't even realize it you just think all men get angry I blow up okay I feel bad boom this is the enemy's access to destroy the souls of your wife and your kids the first he's going to start with you you know it's and then how do you get yourself out of it because you know the most quoted this is really fascinating to me the most quoted scripture they I can't remember it was USA Today or whoever it was they did a study on on what's your favorite scripture in the Bible and just to show the biblical illiteracy of our culture here in the United States where you and I live the most quoted scripture that was quoted back to them was God helps those who help themselves which is not a scripture and so one of the things you talk about a lot is that this anger this suffering all these things we deal with we try to fix it ourselves in self-reliance is one of the biggest stumbling blocks for us as men 100% yeah think about it again self-reliance the rocks have grown to such a big enormous size like you picking up the bag from your wife is too too heavy now granted that's physical rocks you can take them out one at a time okay what do you do with the spiritual rocks what do you do with the emotional rocks that you can't touch and feel and grab and access you don't even know where they are they been in there since childhood you got wounds you got shame someone hurts you like what do you do with those rocks well you can't access spiritual things like that spiritual acts only God can so self-reliance is not enough and it won't work in these areas that are destroying us from the inside out so the way you win the inner game the inner battle the spiritual warfare is you must surrender the rocks to God yeah for only God strength is enough and only God knows which rocks where they are and which come out first and watch which order because the certain rocks within us that are linchpin rocks cornerstone rocks and when you remove one and yank get out or god yank said out all the rest crumble it's an upside down kingdom because surrender is not the first thing you and I think of when we go into a battle well said because we're thinking of physical surrender and there's a distinction I'd like to make to your audience if I may between physical surrender and spiritual physical surrender we look at the world teaches us is bad right it's the white flag it's giving up it's quitting it's losing which means I'm a loser I don't want to be a loser no man wants to be a loser so negative association in the Bible God speaks about spiritual surrender about laying down your life right your ego your self mastery your self reliance hanging it on across next to Jesus in order to gain life life that is real so you're you're putting your fake life to death crucifying it so that you may be raised anew as a new creation in Jesus right so this is what we must do that's a spiritual surrender right and I teach us in my coaching and I walk men step by step here see what it actually looks like here's the steps to take in how you do it practically right so we can discuss more of that or we can go into the seven deadly rocks that kill Christian men or straight into the solution because I think we really understand the problem now and we could talk about the seven steps to master your anger and stress yeah yeah give me give me those in a second but let me let me go back to this so you grew up in this hurricane dysfunction cyclone a chaotic dysfunction and and then you started business when you're 19 which scales and you begin to find I'm sure at that point some identity in that right how does this thing begin to tip over into surrendering to Christ where's that happen in your life Joseph talking to Joseph Warren with blowuprocks.com breaking Catholic and first 100k and whatever the next two or three iterations are that you're doing and the next radio mogul of the United States oh my goodness oh god so how did that tip over where did that thing tip over for you Joseph personally yeah so one thing I did was with all that anger from my childhood that you said is I channeled it into business right and see anger when focused in one direction in business can make us very successful in business being a little control freaking business actually could serve us well financially yes yes yes tall my little control freaks out there and the men I get to serve which are eight or nine figure business owners CEOs founders they're like crushing it in business but they go home miserable they die with regrets okay so what's happening what's it what's and I was on that path now okay so I wanted to be successful and first business right out the gate all that all those rocks I just threw in one direction towards business and we did okay you know business partners we did two million dollars our first year out the gate and in our first startup I didn't know what that guy I was doing but man I had energy and drive an anger and a lot of control freak going on right and so it served me well in business and that's the point I want to make but it was destroying all my relationships I couldn't I couldn't you know date well I had so much dysfunction around women from childhood I had so much dysfunction around God I've already expressed that and then a ton of dysfunction in what is a man what is a good man who am I as a man like you identified all my identity was in my finances in my occupation yeah what I did is who I was for your identity was in your hands and not your heart well said beautiful beautiful so what happened was after five years of working 110 hours per week workaholic there you go that's what we also do with our anger rocks and everything and stress I burnt out even though I was in that workaholic you're a slave to yourself 100 percent 100 percent all right so and I had left behind this was aged 19 through 24 and a half or so and I had left behind God and family okay I want nothing to do with them I'm pursuing three new gods the God of money success and pleasure and I achieved and found all three of them but when I got to the top sort of speak and I semi-retired after four and a half years five years in Scottsdale Arizona great party city great place for a prodigal son to go waste his fortune that's that was my prodigal son sin city and and I partied everything away for five years on loose women I stayed away from drugs thank God I I you know but I was almost murdered twice you know physically being strangle to death and and didn't even have the thought in my head to ask God for help I didn't see a light at the end of the tunnel and I say it this way I was in such a bad place I was that lost sheep out in the darkness and such a bad place even though I was raised with God and faith I was in such a bad place Paul that I was literally as I'm being strangle to death and this person is whispering in my eyes and high on drugs and PCP didn't feel pain and whispered in my ears what does it feel like to die I knew that was the whisper of the enemy I just could not articulate it back then and I was a few breaths away from eternal damnation a few breaths away and God came even though I wanted nothing to do with God God came into the darkness to find me the lost sheep he left the 99 to find the one because he loves us that much brother if you feel like you're alone God's coming for you and even when he put me that lost sheep on his shoulders and carried me home Paul I was peeing on his shoulders and disgruntled and on grateful the whole way I wanted it's still one and nothing to do with him even though he spared my life I walked out of that room blinded in one eye blood gushing out but I survived I lived and from there it was a humble journey of over 10 15 years of me rebuilding my fortune but on my own self-reliance it's all I know one and nothing to do with God resisting his love resisting his help until finally I had this nagging prompting of the Holy Spirit come spend time with me come spend time with me I just kept hearing this in my head and in my heart and I'm like what the heck man right and eventually you know they say God pursues us yeah right and the Holy Spirit convicts us the enemy condemns us the Holy Spirit convicts us and I was just convicted come spend time with me and eventually I said one of the best prayers I've ever said in my life Paul and it's not a good prayer it's a very ugly prayer but God loves ugly ugly prayers if they're honest prayers and I said what do you want can you see I'm busy trying to rebuild my life like somehow somehow blaming God for my destruction even though his self-destruction and I said and the nagging come spend time with me and I was like fine you want me to spend time with you here you go God here's all my bills go ahead and provide me enough mine to pay off everything and I will come spend time with you and if not I don't want to hear from you again wow arrogance yeah spiritual pride but you know what God will meet a son right there yeah remember the prodigal son he took the initiative he came back to his senses he took the one step towards God right he started walking back and what did the father do he ran to him yeah God will always if we just take a step towards him he will do the rest and from that day forward I God provided the money it was in a very way I didn't expect and I was able to take off for eight months Paul and I'll wrap up this story and what did I do with all the money I and taking off for eight months I went and partied her way with some buddies and went back into the lifestyle we rented a 10 bedroom home in the Hamptons on Long Island with some beach houses in Florida and I was off to go to the next one one you know God help me did he helps you to go yeah yeah I'm good now exactly right so from there it was like a Christian buddy and I had confided in him I had a few good men around me and he stopped me before my next trip and he said hey Joseph how you doing I'm like really good everything's going well he goes yeah I see that so it sounds like a God did his end of the bargain how you doing with yours wow and it was like a throat punch wow and I was like crap I canceled the trip I showed up at the church right by me I was pissed off I was angry I was resistant I didn't want to be there and I said God a deal's a deal I'm here I'll spend an hour a day every day I'll come here and just sit with you if you want to talk let me know otherwise I'll just be bored and I'll do it for two weeks an hour a day for two weeks that's that's my payoff that's me losing the deal so to speak and you know what God works with that and over the next two weeks oh my goodness he started to chip away at my rocks and he started to put men in my life who spoke love and light his light into me they invited me to other groups and then I hired people to help me hired coaches to help me blow up the rocks that God started to bring to the surface and show me I want these out of you son I want to set you free wow and that's how it all began man that's fantastic and now here you are helping other men do the same thing with blowup rocks calm and the ministries you have give me those seven things because because we we kind of did a little a little tease on that but I wanted to find out the the real deal because because sometimes we don't know what's behind a guy and we go ah well he was probably you know he was probably cool he's probably told and and probably had everything provided for him and now he's teaching me this stuff and I went to crap and this guy didn't go through anything and now we know that that maybe your hell was worse than most of ours you know or at least comparable yeah comparable we all go through it's all relative right it's all relative and it's so I love hearing that and I love hearing that background and so what are the seven things give me the seven things that that help us push through all right so gentlemen brother here are the seven steps for you to master your anger and stress I'm gonna give you the what to do I'm not gonna give you how to do it we don't have time to do that and if you want that that's what I teach in my coaching blowup rocks calm exactly all right so the step one you must do to master your anger and stress is you must take outrageous outrageous ownership outrageous ownership this simply means I take extreme ownership for the life that I've created no one else is to blame I face and I embrace the consequences of all my decisions the way I've allowed people to treat me well and the way I've allowed people to mistreat me I will not try to escape my life ever again so you have to take outrageous ownership that's outrageous to the world because right now we're good it's called maturity we accept responsibility that's exactly it right but many of us won't no of course not okay and that's the problem so that's the first step you gotta look at your life and say is it here's the deal because the culture has been built for men to be able to stay in mature all for sure it's it's a setup every in fact think about the movies like hang over and all that kind of stuff over guys with really great jobs playing still playing video games and screw it up and it's like license permission to stay in mature not accept responsibility what's number two number two radical responsibility step two radical responsibility this means I will lean in and I will do whatever it takes to create workability in all areas of my life and I accept that no one is coming to save me wow let me say that again I accept that no one is coming to save me brother no one is coming to save you you have a savior only one his name is Jesus but you must take the steps it starts with outrageous ownership and radical responsibility to do the work number three step three loving leadership loving leadership this means I have a three-word definition I've coined for leadership whether it's in business or in life or in relationships or being the spiritual leader of your home as a man leadership means this you go first yeah you go first you can apply that to any area of leadership on the planet yeah Jesus himself went first he says there's the cross there's cover you watch me he went first then he said follow me take up your cross daily right so leaders loving leadership means you go first it means I will put myself at risk I will take the arrows in my life not my wife not my kids not my parents not my siblings not my friends not my employees I'll take them all and I'm gonna start today see that's loving leadership brother that's what God's calling you to do he won first and he's gonna hold each man accountable it's not your wife's responsibility to spiritually lead the home remember when Adam and even fell who did Jesus hold accountable who did he speak to and what did Adam say it's the woman's fault blame and then when that was a good enough he said well you gave her to me it's your fault God oh two people he knew yeah so he didn't accept the responsibility that's what God was waiting for same for you brother step four spiritual surrender spiritual surrender we spoke about this earlier this means I give God total and complete control over all areas of my business and my life and my family right total control right that doesn't mean that means you have to release the white knuckle grip that you're holding over that one area of your life that God wants yeah sacrifice in the Bible is always about life yeah absolutely this means spiritual surrender means I am only responsible brother you ready for this this is a truth that set me free you are only responsible for your action or in actions in action okay all outcomes and results belong to God all of your stress is coming from that one statement yeah all the stress in your life is from you taking on control of the outcomes and results you're trying to manipulate people or situations to go the way you think they should go this is where all your stress is coming from and they don't because you're not actually in control because you're not God so all outcomes and results belong to God the outcome and results of the business meeting you're about to have the deal you're about to close the conversation where you need to ask your wife for forgiveness how it goes whether it goes well or bad or whatever all outcomes belong to God you are responsible brother to take the action right or the inaction sometimes don't retaliate is a good inaction don't yell back at the person don't curse him out don't cut him off on the road does that make sense yeah number five number five bold belief bold belief wow this means I place all my trust unreservedly in God's providence yeah and in God's biblical promises I believe that the king of the universe brother if you believe that the king of the universe is your father and he and you are his son and he's a good father then it is unreasonable for you to ever doubt complain or worry about your future yeah it's unreasonable why because God runs the universe he's your father he loves you you're his son it's unreasonable for you to worry the reason why you worry all the time is because of your lack of faith you don't actually believe trust him to be him yeah so bold belief it's how Jesus taught us to pray he said pray this way our father and so it started we think in images right we don't think in words we don't think in consonants we think in images and story and narrative and so what Jesus did right off the top of where he taught us the disciples pray is this I won't give you an image which is the highest manifestation of who God is to you and me oh great sovereign one oh great creator was our father he made an intimate and personal and touch was involved that's beautiful yeah I love it man so we have to claim sonship we have to clean that sonship until we actually believe it okay what's number six number six powerful perseverance powerful perseverance this simply means I will wait patiently on the Lord on on God to bring me his best not my best his best I'm gonna let go of my plans and schemes Joseph's best has never been adequate I could tell you that in my own life so wait patiently on the Lord be brave and courageous yes you little control freaks wait patiently on the Lord that's what God is telling us through scripture he's saying it twice because he knows our need to control everything in our lives and what do we do in the meantime while we're waiting patiently on the Lord in persevering well God gives us the answer be brave and courageous because it takes bravery it takes courage to rely on God and wait on him and his timing it really does so this is what it means right if you want God's best in your life brother you must pass God's test if you want God's best you must pass his test you're gonna have to wait on his will and his timing okay powerful perseverance yeah Hebrew says you know one of the reasons you don't have what what you know the will of God has produced you you have need of endurance and need of endurance and and so there I think to receive what the promise of God perseverance endurance resilience grit however you want to state it it's like take the next step and then take the next step after that one that's it what's number seven number seven brother are you ready you ready eager expectation eager expectation if you've done the first six steps and they're in chronological order by the way right or spiritual order I should say eager expectation means that I expect only good things from God because I'm his son and he loves me so I expect miracles in these areas of my life where I have rocks I expect 100% total permanent healing from and deliverance from these rocks that are crushing me because I believe that everything is possible with God and that I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me let's go this is what we're talking about eager expectation childlike expectation yeah yeah power of possibility thinking it's overcoming negativity it's it's defeating the enemy with faith yes because we worship a God of possibilities with God all things are possible so our father were made in his image and likeness is a possibility God then we are possibility sons and if we're not showing up as sons of possibility we're missing it expectation is the atmosphere from miracles oh everything lives or dies based on the atmosphere it's in yes and if you did all of these things and you didn't start operating in faith and expectation that God would be God then if you will it undercuts the other things you're doing here this is a brilliant I want to mention in Joseph Warren with blowup rocks.com and first 100k podcast blowup rocks.com is a coaching mechanism you get you help guys deal with anger and stress in particular correct so number one coaching program in the world it's elite men's coaching for Christian husbands who want to go from angry and stressed to peace and purpose guaranteed in 90 days or less hey and okay can we actually also give you names of guys we want you to call probably not publicly on the show I've got a couple of phone numbers in the 202 area code I'm sure there's more than a few notes where that is as watching DC anyway nonetheless man Joseph Warren you you are filled with stuff you've got a book also I want to mention the book would you talk about that briefly yeah so I've been literally pulling out of this book peace and purpose for this conversation so if you want to learn more about those those lists I just came up with you want a deep dive you could go get my book peace and purpose an easy and proven way to eliminate anger and stress in 90 days or less how to master those negative emotions without therapy without counseling because we hate doing those things as men because it means something's wrong with us right so if you want to do that I'm going to give you the book free of charge go to freepurposebook.com freepurposebook.com go grab yourself a copy we'll mail it out to you I will cover the book you cover the shipping and handling that's the deal freepurposebook.com you got it and that's fantastic thank you for doing that broken Catholic is also a number one podcast for Protestants and Catholics and brilliant guests and your first 100k listen to one of those the other day it was one that just came out with with luck the yes Kimberly yeah yeah and brilliant stuff great content and so Joseph Warren thanks for hanging out with us on Brave Men really a blessing I you know being with you you are you have one of those things around you that's sort of like you hang out with Joseph Warren and you get done and you feel larger feel a little stretched because you make you think about things but you feel like a bigger person and that's that's the atmosphere of the 19 of God and thank you as they want you know that we bring joy where there's pain and and light where there's darkness and beauty from ashes and freedom to those who are in captivity and Joseph Warren you're doing that and I want to recommend your ministry and not only that I want men who are listening right now to pray for you Joseph because with the work you're doing obviously you put a target on your back right it's on my back and my front end my forehead I was going to say and on your head you know for drones and so it's so you know we just need to pray protection over men like you who are out there doing it and getting stuff done and the world's going to change one man at a time I believe Joseph that when Jesus returns and he is and it's probably soon I believe he comes back for a strong powerful road bust church full of strong men and women who didn't just lay down and kind of hanged over the abyss of of total defeat and failure and we're just hanging there and he finally comes back we're waving a wife I believe he comes back for a church that's powerful and strong and we as his bride present to him here here's your church and he comes back and he goes well done that's the parable of the the servants with the talents right he comes back and we're like look father we multiplied the talents you gave us yeah and you're one of those guys man so well done thanks brother right back at you you spotted you got it very cool man and you and your wife and two little ones and everything you're doing we pray blessing on you and pray every place your your feet go as holy ground and everything your hands touchable prosper and the God will keep you deep within the grip of his grace in Jesus name amen bless you Joseph thanks for being on brave men thank you